ACCOUNTABILITY PITFALL #4 & Putting Church Time Ahead of Family Time. #PersonalExperience

by Bob Whitesel DMin PhD, Church Revitalizer MagazineAug. 1, 2018.

Family Time vs. Church Time

Finally the fourth area is the important aspect of carving out time with your earthly family and your heavenly family (Father, Son and Holy Spirit). During some of my most successful years in ministry my children were young. And though they had have great memories from their childhood, I wish I’d spent a bit more time with them. I could have had more deep dialogues with them. I could have known them even better. And this is good not only for our earthly family, but our heavenly family as well.

Solution: Later in my years as a turnaround pastor I found that I benefited greatly by taking two days off every week to be with my early family (recreation) and my heavenly family (in scriptural meditation and prayer). On those two days every week I did no church business. I viewed those days as a sabbatical. If God, the all powerful creator of the universe took off a seventh day to rest (commanding it upon his children as one of his 10 commands) then I need something more regular and restful than a couple of partial days off each week.

These four principles helped me not only survive ministry, but enjoy it and thrive in it.

Read more at … https://churchhealthwiki.wordpress.com/2018/09/25/spiritual-formation-helpful-vs-hurting-disciplines-how-to-thrive-in-ministry-by-choosing-the-best-spiritual-practices/

FATHERHOOD & Black Dads Spend More Time w/ Their Children Than Latino or White Dads #CDC

Commentary by Dr. Whitesel: “Much has been made of recent research that found 72% of African-American children are born to unwed parents (http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2013/08/22/chapter-3-demographic-economic-data-by-race/). But, research also shows (below) that Black fathers spend more time w/ their children (e.g. with homework, feeding and bathing) than white or Latino fathers. And this is true even when comparing non-coresidential fathers.”

Fathers’ Involvement With Their Children: United States, 2006–2010

by Jo Jones, Ph.D., and William D. Mosher, Ph.D., US Division of Vital Statistics

Abstract

Objective—This report measures fathers’ involvement with their children. Father involvement is measured by how often a man participated in a set of activities in the last 4 weeks with children who were living with him and with fathers in their children’s lives has been associated with a range of positive outcomes for the children.

Methods—The analyses presented in this report are based on a nationally representative sample of 10,403 men aged 15–44 years in the household population of the United States. The father-involvement measures are based on 2,200 fathers of children under age 5—1,790 who live with their children and 410 who live apart from their children, and on 3,166 fathers of children aged 5–18—2,091 who live with their children and 1,075 who live apart from their children.

Results—Statistics are presented on the frequency with which fathers took part in a set of age-specific activities in their children’s lives. Differences in percent distributions are found by whether the father lives with or apart from his children, and by his demographic characteristics. In general, fathers living with their children participated in their children’s lives to a greater degree than fathers who live apart from their children. Differences in fathers’ involvement with their children were also found by the father’s age, marital or cohabiting status, education, and Hispanic origin and race.

Read more at … http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr071.pdf

GENERATIONS & The state of multi-generational living #PewResearch

by Jeffrey Passel: Senior demographer at the Pew Research Center, and Laurence Steinberg: Professor of psychology and author of the forthcoming book, ‘Age of Opportunity: Lessons From the New Science of Adolescence’

The shape of the family has been changing for a long time, but the Pew Research Center is detecting another trend: Adults in their 20s and 30s living with their parents or grandparents.

By 2012, almost one in four young adults lived in multi-generational homes, up from 18.7 percent in 2007 and 11 percent in 1980.

Read more at … http://www.mprnews.org/story/2014/08/05/daily-circuit-multi-generational-living

PARENTING & Growing Number of Dads Home With Kids #PewResearch

Commentary by Dr. Whitesel: “In your sermon this Father’s Day reach out to this increasing segment of fathers. Use these demographics to craft a Father’s Day sermon so that you will help the growing number of fathers that are serving their children as their stay-at-home caregiver. Sometimes the church assumes that the traditional family make up will persist, when actually the demographics are changing as this InfoGraphic from Pew Research demonstrates.”

Rising Number of Stay-at-Home DadsbyGRETCHEN LIVINGSTON

“The number of fathers who are at home with their children for any reason has nearly doubled since 1989, when 1.1 million were in this category.2 It reached its highest point—2.2 million—in 2010, just after the official end of the recession, which spanned from 2007 to 2009. Since that time, the number has fallen slightly, driven mainly by declines in unemployment, according to a new Pew Research Center analysis of U.S. Census Bureau data.3

Read more at … http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/06/05/growing-number-of-dads-home-with-the-kids/

PARENTHOOD & Six Ways Single Christians Can Help the Orphans

by Jamie Calloway-Hanauer, Christianity Today, 4/28/14

“You don’t have to be a parent to care for children in need.”

Six Ways Single Christians Can Help the Orphans

“While much attention has been given to the work of international adoption and setting up in-country orphan care overseas, we also have approximately 400,000 children in foster care in this country. The Christian Alliance for Orphans calls them “social orphans,” noting that during the time children are in foster care they are without the support, protection, and provision of their biological parents…

By focusing locally, Christians—no matter their marital, financial, or educational status—can serve the orphans who live among and perhaps even become a regular and stable part of these children’s lives…”

Read more at … http://www.christianitytoday.com/women/2014/april/six-ways-single-christians-can-help-orphans.html

FAMILIES & Why I Tell My Employees to Bring Their Kids to Work #HarvardBusinessReview

Commentary by Dr. Whitesel: “Churches will learn that by accommodating the children of employees on special occasions they can not only increase employee satisfaction but also dedication. Read this intriguing story how a Silicon Valley CEO created a stronger team by accommodating as needed the children of employees.”

ARTICLE by Sabrina Parsons,Harvard Biz Review

Read more at … http://blogs.hbr.org/2014/04/why-i-tell-my-employees-to-bring-their-kids-to-work/