by Joshua Spodek, Inc Magazine, 2/1/18
… We all have said “yes” to too many things sometime, not realizing that time doing one thing meant time not doing another. I still do, but less than before.
What does “too many things” mean? It means saying yes to mediocre or good things that crowd out great things. We all do it. Something seems great in the moment. We want it.
We don’t think about the resources it will take. Then when we do it we realize we can’t do something else we wanted to.
We make ourselves mediocre, ironically by chasing what we imagine is greatness.
When I can magically create more time and other resources, I’ll say yes to more things. Until then, I’ve learned to decline good things to have a great life.
Values and emotions
It’s a matter of values. Your values determine “good” and “great” for you.
The less you know your values–your emotional responses to things–the less you know how to decide where to allocate your resources, especially time, but also money, connections, relationships, energy, and so on.
The more you know your values, the more you can choose to improve your life–that is, to have more things in your life you like and less that you don’t.
Having limited time and finite resources means saying “no” isn’t declining one thing, but saying “yes” to something better, or at least enabling it.
It takes discipline, but also builds it.
Read more at … https://www.inc.com/joshua-spodek/you-have-to-say-no-to-a-lot-of-good-things-to-have-a-great-life.html