MEETINGS & 7 Sentences Successful People Say To Defend Their Value #ForbesMagazine

by Kevin Kruse, Forbes Magazine, 11/23/17.

When someone takes credit for your idea: “Thanks for spotlighting my point…

How do we say “No,” to a request to stay late? “Excuse me. I have another commitment.” You gather your stuff, you get up, and you walk away. What you’re doing there is you’re signaling to people, “I have a boundary here…

What’s the right way to say “No,” to someone we care about? … simply say, “This is a good launching point.” By calling it a launching point, it allows you to then take a creative step and move that ask in a trajectory that is more amenable to what you do want to deliver to them.

What do you say when you have to give some tough feedback, for example, on hygiene?.. “I’m here to be for you what someone once was for me,” and so now you give them time to sort of brace themselves. “Ok, what’s coming? In what way are you being for me what someone once was for you?” Then you can go ahead and say it with the understanding that you identify with them…

What if we need to push back on a decision that we think is a mistake?.. The tendency is either to feel disempowered and shut down and just accept the decision that was made, or we might become angry or confrontational, or we might begin to talk with people around the office about it. The most empowered thing you can do is to let the person know, “This is my preference.” In this way, all you’re doing is you’re being transparent about where you are on this topic…

Read more at … https://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkruse/2017/11/23/7-sentences-successful-people-say-to-defend-their-value/#416e586a4bf6